Lies

We have been taught many things since our childhood. Sometimes it's school teacher giving lecture on text printed in books and sometimes it's our Parents teaching us the lesson of life. Most of time they taught us truth. But unwillingly and unknowingly, they had told us many lies too. Here are few of them:-

1. Hard Work Pays :- I completely disagree with this. There has been many incidence in my life where I have seen people doing the hard work and getting nothing in return. Just few months back, I was working on a project having a short deadline. I was sure that it will take a lot from us to finish this on time. Working late night and on weekends, we did succeed in doing so. My colleague who had done the most part didn't got the recognization. We were told to be awarded. It's been 3 months and nothing had happen. So next time when someone tells you this, you know what you have to do.
2. Everything Happens for a Reason :-  Oh come on, Since when losing things in life has been boon for anyone. Losing your mother or father in some accident had happened for something good? Oh yes, They have left their wealth for you to enjoy. Getting kicked out from job in recession is good? Why not, now you know that you were just a employee at your company. Your company is not your family. To much for just a realization, isn't it. There is a positive side to everything, but considering the same as good is not alright mate.
3. God is Watching :- Look at the population of this world dear. Do you really think GOD has time for everyone. Or has HE started recruiting others to keep a watch on us? :-) Got the point.
4. Be Happy With What You Have :- If we started to feel happy with whatever we have now, then there will be no progress. We will never go for excellence. We will live the same monotonous life. The motto of life is to achieve your heart's Desire and not to be happy with what you have.
5. Good And Evil :- Pick a single guy who has not heard stories of Heaven and Hell. What are they exactly. Hypothetically, Heaven is a place where you will land up after doing good things in your life. The place is full of good souls and Angels. Similarly, Hell is where you go after doing bad things in your life. A place to torture you even after death. Now If I ask you to define Good and Bad, what's gonna be your answer. Whatever you do is Good for someone and Bad for others. Who's keeping count of that. Keep doing what you think is good for you.
6. Life is Wonderful :- Since When? Life was wonderful when there was only Adam and Eve living in our Earth. Since then Life has been a continous journey of pain and sorrow with few light moments.
7. Society is Important :- We humans totally believe in living in OUR society. Why we need a society to live our life? What society gives you back? Nothing. We humans made this society according to our needs. Society needs us, We don't need society to live our own life. So, if you want to marry anyone outside your society, here the advice, Go ahead and do it. Cause even if you ll marry soomeone from your society, your so called Society is not going to pay your bills.
8. Patience Pays :- Time doesn't wait for anyone. Move with time or you will be left behind is the success mantra of today's generation. Impatience is the new buzz down the streets. What are you gonna do? Sit back and relax for the things to come out your way or to go for it full throttle. Over to you.

There may be more lies. It depends on one's prespective. My advice is "Believe in things which are good for you. All the rest are philosophical".


P.S. I agree that point 6 is debatable. Even I believe Life is wonderful and full of fun and joy.

It's Complicated

No this is not about the movie titled 'It's Complicated' starring Alec Bladwin, Meryl Streep and Steve Martin. It's about the way I am feeling from last 2 days. The most complicated thing human race has ever come across is brain. The way you feel is controlled by your brain. Almost all of us have read about human brain in school. Let's cut it short.

From last 2 days, my mind is playing tricks with me. I don't have reason to celebrate anything, neither have reason for crying over anything. I usually have lots of things to do. My mind is always occupied with one thing or other. But since last 2 days, I am not able to concentrate on anything. Most of the time I feel like there is nothing happening in my brain. No thoughts, no dreams, no feelings not a single thing. Moreover, I am not getting answer to this question and why it's happening. And this is what making it more complicated. I don't know what to do and get over this feeling. I have started neglecting everything. I don't feel like talking while in someone's company. I feel good to be alone doing nothing. Something is wrong deep inside of me. I have to get over it ASAP. It's complicated for me to explain what exactly I am going through.


P.S. To all my friends out there, don't worry. I will get over it. I can't be sad or worry for long. :)

Should Caste System Prevail in India...........

Yesterday, when it was raining in Bangalore, I called my Dad to tell him how good the weather is here. He was doing his duty as police officer, standing between thousands of people, gathered to see and hear the speech by Chief Minister of Chhattishgarh. He was there to give a speech on Dr. Bhim Rao Ambedakar, the mastermind behind the constitution of India and a great personality our country ever had. It was his birthday.

To all who doesn't have ever read about Indian History this must be sounding strange and unrelated to the title. But it's not true. Caste System and Dr.Bhim Rao Ambedkar are related to each other more than you can think. It was him who introduced caste system in our consitution. When he introduced this concept for the first time, it was supposed to be in effect for 10 years. Being from a low caste, (poor choice of word) he wanted to change the prespective of higher caste people. His wish was to see his people rise and walk hand in hand with higher caste people. His vision was justified, considering how inhuman higher caste was to lower caste of society. Lower caste people were treated as dogs and pigs. To change this attitude, he introduced the caste system and reservation for low caste people in every field. It was implemented with a constraint that it will be withdrawn after 10 years if the condition of low caste people improved in those 10 years. If not, continue the same for 5 more years and then revise the system.

It's been more than 60 years of Independance, and still we have caste system and reservation for low caste people. Does this reflect that higher caste still dominate the lower caste? The answer is a definite 'no'. Time and again, Low caste people have proved their worth. Today they are sitting at top positions of Indian Government. They are rich and they dominate in many competetive exams cause of reservation. A low caste student needs only 30/120 to crack IIT-JEE where a general student has to score more than 90 to be eligible for top education in engineering. Same is applicable everywhere in India. Today, the scenario is totally opposite to what it was before Independance. Today, a high caste student suffers more than a low caste student cause of reservation system. Our ministers have exploited the clause for their benefit and vote bank.


As far, I am concerned, the caste system is pushing our country back and is hindering the growth. We should support the talent and not the caste. We, the young generation don't differentiate between low caste and high caste. We don't care whether our friend belong to low caste or high caste. It's high time that government should coinsider scraping the reservation system and stop dividing the country on terms of caste and religion.


P.S:- when I say low caste, that include minority groups also.

Men's Day........

Well well well...........Never heard of it I guess.
Everyone in his/her life has heard about Women's Day and Mother's Day, but how many of you have heard about Father's Day and Men's Day.  I guess no one.

Even I had not heard about it till yesterday. I was sitting at office and was reading some random articles. I saw an article on Women's Day. Lots of celebrities comments and nice words for the womanhood.  And in the midst of all this I started thinking why we celebrate Women's Day and Mother's Day and not Father's Day and Men's Day. I googled Men's Day and Father's Day.

19th of November is considered as International Men's Day and third sunday of June is celebrated as Father's Day in many countries.

But the question is why most of us are unaware of this fact. Or is it that our very own society is partial? To raise a child father contributes as much as mother. Then why father should not be credited for it?

Since childhood, I was taught that all gender are equal and have same rights in our constitutuion. Then why we have Woman's Quota in bus, rail, colleges and now in parliament also. Why there is no quota for men? Many will argue that women are weak and for their upliftment we need this reservations and quota. But ask any women whether they feel inferior to the any male and the answer will be "We are equal to men in every field and we are not inferior to them". Funny isn't it...........

I am not against Women's Day and Mother's Day and I do feel that women can do almost all the things a man can do. I just wanted to express my views about the Father's Day and Men's Day. We should celebrate these too. And as the world respect Women and Mother, we males should also be respected.

Blind Date....................

Remember the girl I mentioned in my earlier blog New Girl at the end of Block We made an arrangement to meet for the first time on Sunday. I reached at meeting place well in advance not cause of excitement but out of behaviour. I just hate being late and have people waiting for me. So, I reached and was waiting for her to come. I roam around the place for a while and then she arrived.


I just don't have words to describe how she looks. Earlier I had told her that I am not good looking and there is a high probability that She ll run away or faint after seeing me. But I never expected the reverse can also be true. I accept that I don't look like Prince Charming and I don't wish to have a girlfriend beautiful as Jacquline Fernandez or Katrina Kaif but still she should be above average. These are hard statement and some of you may even say that looks doesn't matter. But believe me guys, if you can't even look at someone how are you going to talk. Most of the time you would be wondering why are you even there. Talking over phone is ok but confornting is not a good idea at all. So there I was sitting with her and having lunch. I wanted to run away, but I just can't do that, never. Our meeting lasted for almost an hour. Then I started for my room.


Overall, that was a horrible experience.... I mean the idea of Blind Date. I was not lucky enough this time too. No Problems............ Another time another chance............ Someday I will get lucky............

When I was Child.................

I still remember most beautiful and worst days of my childhood. I can still visualize them. Like most of you, my childhood was of mixed days. "Kabhi Khusi Kabhi Gham"  kind of situations. Mostly happy moments I guess. I was brought up like any middle class child. Proper education, good clothes to wear and nice homely food (gosh I miss them today). Ok stop dreaming about your childhood now.

At my home, I was one of the worst kid of the block. Always fighting with neighbours and kicking others butt. I was like a rogue. Childrens used to stay away from me. There was no one in vicinity whom I had not abused or fought. I believed in solving the matter on the spot. Never take anything home. You know what I mean...... like no court, no talk......faisla on the spot. :)

I was totally opposite of this image at school. I was one the best student. Neat and clean clothes, polished shoes, nice hair cut and well groomed. Too good at studies. Always first in class. Good at cricket and chess. Best in slow cycle race. Overall, a student every teacher loved to have. This is till 7th standard.

Then I was tansferred to other school (second best in town). There I met best of minds. Great at studies and sports. First time in my life, I failed in an exam (Quaterly like mid-sems). I cried whole night. I started feeling like a small fish in a lake.But I was determined to make a mark. I passed in finals with good score (way back in ranking). Soon I came to realize that the toppers are as good as me. It's more like they have better capability of mugging things up than me. I refused to run in rat race. I started enjoying life at school. Bunking classes, stealing others tiffin boxes, playing inside class when teachers were not around, still maintaing my good boy image.


Believe me, having a good boy image always helps. I still remember as if it happened yesterday. We were in 10th standard. One of my friend brought a poster (adult for that standard) and other one was showing it to everyone of us. Then someone threw it towards girls sitting at other corner. It was too much for them and they went to Principal and complained about the obscene behaviour of ours. 8 of us, including me, were made to stand outside class in hot sun. Then in a min, whole staff room came down. Just when a teacher started hitting my friends from one end, my english teacher pulled me out of the line. She said "This boy cannot indulge in this kind of activities." I was spared but rest of my friends were suspended for a week. They were asked to bring thier parent. Nothing seriously happened though. I got out of the situation unharmed cause of my 'good boy' image. I still laugh at my friends mentioning the situation whenever we meet.

After passing 10th standard, I selected Science as my stream cause I wanted to be an engineer. I studied hard to get good marks. I was among lucky 19 who passed 12th from my class. I didn't scored well in competetive exam. I decided to take a year off to prepare again. I got good marks in CG-PET but not in AIEEE (All India Engineering Enterance Exam). I was eligible for the best engineering college of chhattishgarh. But my father was worried by my behaviour of a rouge. He wanted me to get out of the state far away. Today I know, he decided so for my better life.


This blog is not sufficient to put all the incidents of my childhood. This is a story When I was Child.........


P.S. :- Inspired by my dear friend Ankit's blog on trasition.
http://ageless-wonders.blogspot.com/2010/04/transition-troublesome.html

New girl at the end of the block.....................

I started this year with a bang, losing my mobile on 2nd of January. That was costly and that's surely hurt. But the kind of person I have become, I am wondering whether I will even cry or remorse for anything in near future. I lost my mobile, it was January. Feburary was no better. Death of my friend's Mom came as shock. Then March, my youngest brother had an accident, resulting in death of his GirlFriend. Nothing was going right way. Everything was random as in a Chaos. I was astonished and surprised at the incidents happening around and with me.

But since last 2 weeks, things have started to change. First i bought a new Mobile costing almost my one month's pay. And then to keep myself busy sitting in free pool (that's the term we used in wipro technologies when one is not doing any productive work at all), I have a new friend (girl) to talk and message throught the day. It was quite filmy and dramatic. I got a call from a call center. There was this girl trying to pursue me to donate for Save The Children initiative. But I refused bluntly to do so. I thought thats done. But then she called me from her mobile  number. I was surprised. She started talking casually. Now it's been a week. Daily I am talking to her, messaging her frequently. I guess there is nothing wrong in talking to her. We share some kind of vibe.

She is herself. She is like every other girl or as we say girl next door. No interest in anything. I tried to pursuade her to some kind of habit or hobby but it's gonna take more time I guess. She works in call center. Just 20 years of age. Tamilian by culture, born and brought up in Bangalore. She speaks 6 languages. Tamil, Kannad, Telgu, Hindi, Urdu and English. We talk in english over phone. She like reading stories, chatting with friends, troubling her brothers. She wants to be a teacher. She is kind hearted. Always ready to help someone in need. She is fun to talk.
But it's impossible to find a perfect human being. So is she. She have her own shortcomings. I am trying to figure out those. I want to meet her as soon as I can. Even we planned to meet yesterday. But she was down with fever. Still she wanted to come to meet me. I being the spoilsport, refused to met her. From past 3 days she was suffering from fever, how can I ask her to come just to meet me. It will take one more week to meet her. As the saying goes, patience has it's own rewards. Lets see what I will be rewarded with.  And I hope, she won't faint or run away after seeing me first time. :)




Looking at my past records, don't be surprised if one day I declare her as my girlfriend. :). just kidding.
I just don't want to be in this kind of relationship anymore. Talking over phone, messaging is ok as far as it doesn't get serious.

Pray for me guys...........and for god sake, no more surprises for this year. I have enough.